The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them

Good time friends

There are two kinds of friends - one whose presence will usually brings laughter in the air. the other will make sure that there is never sadness around you. you may ask me what the difference is. the first kind know only how to deal with happiness , in case of some crisis or trouble, they won't be there. the latter sort of friends may not always make you laugh, but they will definitely be there for you when life gets tough. they will help you stand up on your feet and face the trouble with courage. I need both friends, but the better friends are the latter kind. Hope i never forget that.

Everlasting fear.. constant trepidation.

The life of a woman is a constant and vicious cycle of fear. The fear of the world. I do not mean those trivial fears of being accepted by society around or being popular or successful. It is that basic fear which is never absent from any woman's heart. The fear of not being secure or safe. In the complete physical sense. Hoping and praying that they never have to be victims of any sort of physical abuse. Even among the most trusted people, the fear is never fully gone. Wherever, whenever, they always have to be fully aware of their surroundings and try to keep themselves from any sort of harm. They are always having to defend themselves against the misdemeanour of creeps, who are out there to rob the woman of her piece of mind and sense of security. People might say that some incidents are not that big a deal if you compare with the horrendous act of rape or beatings. But only the woman knows that no offence is slight. Any of such episodes impacts her dignity, her sense of worth and most of all, her faith in mankind. But being a woman, its her basic nature to hope and to rekindle her faith in others. So she does that, she renews her faith and continues to be in fear. But our world being what it is, once again disappoints her. The day, when the world stops disappointing the woman, that would be the day when she is finally free, free from her constant state of fear.

The List........

one usually has these secret desires and must-dos .. these are some of mine.. i am jotting it down so that i wont forget..

1. i want to Adopt a child.

2. i want to be part of some NGO which does work for the upliftment of the homeless and orphaned children.

3. i have to get something for all those important people of my life when i get a job - like my family, chandrika chechi, ammani chechi.

4. i just realised i love certain relatives more.. coz they ahve been important part of my life - suri appachan, satish chayan

Friends come and go As the currents ebb and flow, The swells and ripples that they make , Leave mixed emotions in their wake , For some friends drift with changing tide, Come on strong and then subside, Only to be cast Upon the shore, Disappear and be seen no more, But Some friendships are strong enough to stand, the changing tides and shifting sand, What is strong enough to set these friendships apart, Affinity of mind and heart, Love much more than mere token, thoughts understood ,Yet unspoken, A common bond a mutual goal ,An understanding heart and soul, It's these little things that mean so much, Are strokes of friendship's velvet touch

We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
--Viktor Frankl, author, neurologist and psychiatrist, Holocaust Survivor (1905-1997)

Any movie, book, report or what-so-ever on the Holocaust always causes a cringing of the heart... at the same time there's a surge of anger against all those who inflicted such cruelties on their fellow humans in the name of some crappy propaganda...... how could any sane person support such viciousness??. To say damn those absolute losers to hell would be being too kind upon them.anybody who suffered in those concentration camps cannot be expected to lead a normal life after getting out from them... they would be scarred for life , for sure.... and if it were me, perhaps, i would lose all faith in humankind and maybe, God even.

CAt exam.. big time screw up

Today I attempted my first Cat exam and i must say things couldnt get worse.... the paper was fine but i was not feeli ng well and coz of which couldnt concentrate at all and was almost at the verge of running out of the exam hall... hopefully i ll be able to do my next exams better..... that is if i study well